A well written piece by such an amazing women. I absolutely follow her philosophy on this subject. I am indeed an Asian women that absolutely refuses to date an Asian male. Jenny put it in the best way possible. Yes. Because I am racist. But not because of skin color. It is because of the patriarchy and cultural sexism.
Males have always been seen as the superior gender in the Asian culture. And as tradition would play it's course, males would have control over the women. Why? Because of their elevated levels of testosterones? Because they have the ability to change a women's last name? Because they are seen to be the providers in the household? Because supposely they can take care of the family? These are all pathetic excuses of why Asian men should be looked as the more superior gender.
Don't get me wrong. I've tried dating "one of my kind"...twice... both turned out horribly wrong. They feel the need to be in control. They feel like it's their responsibilty to provide. And if they can't, their pride has taken a hit. So what if you can't pay the bills? Would it hurt to ask me instead of taking on loans and interest when a simple 'can you cover this babe?' would solve the situation?
My ex-boyfriend racked up his credit card up to $6000 before finally throwing his hands up to admit defeat and asking me for help. By that time, interest had already taken a good toll on him and not even to mention what it will do to his credit score.
I am tried of this unwritten rule that one must be with it's own kind. What if I don't belong to a certain kind? I am considered as Asian American. I am more familiar with the American traditions and morals than Asian. So why do people of my race find it difficult to understand when I feel more comfortable with Americans? What if I'm mixed and in love with different cultures and traditions.
Yes. My mom, the traditional tiger mom, was born and raised in China pushes these policies and regulations on me. As if to say that only Asian males can make me happy. I love you mom, but that is the most pathetic thing I have ever heard.
Well enough said. My opinion is stated loud and clear by Jenny An.
This is just another random rant by Yet Another Angry Asian Girl.
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